"But I thought we were friends!""There is no such thing. Everyone bothers only about their own skin today...I am no saint."
"But..."
"Drop it. We are over."
What reads like the script of some emotional drama is what real life can become if we allow it to. Friendship - touted as the best and the foremost of all relationships - is also the leader in being a mislead(er). While movies like Rock On celebrate the beauty of friendship, I am often left to wonder at the fate of many around me who have had more friendships broken than made.
Does the following scenario seem familiar?
You put your best foot forward to help a precious friend but when you land in trouble, even a toe of the precious friend's foot refuses to come forward at the pretext of being twisted. (Who cares a damn about the pretext anyway. We are all experts in cooking up excuses.) You forgive the friend who largely extols the 'magic' of the times you spent together and your heart melts. In the meantime, you continue to share assignments, pay for the occasional treats and in general keep up the mask of everything being hunky dory.
Assignments over. Movie over. Magical times over. Uh, friend??
So my friend, pun unintended, what you need to do is to be a bit wary and not befriend everyone who is sweet to you initially. Friendship is beautiful and an integral part of life. But being with people like the ones I wrote about can make you prone to an extreme crisis of faith.
Some Warning Signs you are stuck with a Friend-In-Deed who Vanishes-In-Need :
* You catch them contradicting what they told you earlier.
* They lie too frequently.
*They flatter you too much, even to an extent that you are uncomfortable.
* They don't pick your call or reply to your message for a week straight and later say that their phone was on silent mode.
* In class, they sit with you during the lecture and are off to whisper with someone else as soon as the lecture is over.
*They confirm they'd be coming for class/movie/whatever and disappear at the last moment.
* They leave you stranded when they have to attend some important function, which you later find, never happened.
* Their excuses to avoid helping you border on the ridiculous.
* They make fun of issues that are serious to you.
While the true intentions of people today are usually hidden in the mists, a genuine friend should rise above them all and be there for you.
When it comes to friendship, the season within the heart is perennially spring - Forget the mists, let loose the sunshine.
Does the following scenario seem familiar?
You put your best foot forward to help a precious friend but when you land in trouble, even a toe of the precious friend's foot refuses to come forward at the pretext of being twisted. (Who cares a damn about the pretext anyway. We are all experts in cooking up excuses.) You forgive the friend who largely extols the 'magic' of the times you spent together and your heart melts. In the meantime, you continue to share assignments, pay for the occasional treats and in general keep up the mask of everything being hunky dory.
Assignments over. Movie over. Magical times over. Uh, friend??
So my friend, pun unintended, what you need to do is to be a bit wary and not befriend everyone who is sweet to you initially. Friendship is beautiful and an integral part of life. But being with people like the ones I wrote about can make you prone to an extreme crisis of faith.
Some Warning Signs you are stuck with a Friend-In-Deed who Vanishes-In-Need :
* You catch them contradicting what they told you earlier.
* They lie too frequently.
*They flatter you too much, even to an extent that you are uncomfortable.
* They don't pick your call or reply to your message for a week straight and later say that their phone was on silent mode.
* In class, they sit with you during the lecture and are off to whisper with someone else as soon as the lecture is over.
*They confirm they'd be coming for class/movie/whatever and disappear at the last moment.
* They leave you stranded when they have to attend some important function, which you later find, never happened.
* Their excuses to avoid helping you border on the ridiculous.
* They make fun of issues that are serious to you.
While the true intentions of people today are usually hidden in the mists, a genuine friend should rise above them all and be there for you.
When it comes to friendship, the season within the heart is perennially spring - Forget the mists, let loose the sunshine.
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